Building Authentic Relationships That Last

Welcome back to another Ty Session. Today, we dive deep into something that's more important now than ever: building authentic relationships in a world that feels more disconnected by the day.

Whether you noticed it or not, the pandemic reset so many of our social habits. For some, it became easier to isolate. For others, there was a struggle to reconnect and find that natural rhythm in conversation again. If that sounds familiar, you're not alone.

But here's the truth: social skills are just that—skills. Which means they can be developed.

Start With Systems

Most people think great conversationalists are born that way. But just like anything else, there are systems you can use to make things flow easier. You don't need to memorize scripts. You just need a few go-to conversation starters, fallback topics, and ways to gracefully enter or exit a chat.

• Notice something unique someone is wearing? Call it out. That ring, those shoes, that tattoo—they're all entry points.

• Share something about yourself. People respond more freely when you're open first.

• Keep it light. The goal isn't to impress—it's to connect.

You might be awkward at first. That’s okay. Growth always starts awkward.

Tools I’ve Learned from Books and Life

Books like Atomic Habits and teachings from Mel Robbins offer practical tools:

• 5-second rule: Count down from 5 and act. Don’t overthink.

• Peacocking principle: If someone’s wearing something unique, they want attention on it. Use that.

• Conversation failsafes: Have go-to stories or questions ready.

If you have something interesting that happened to you this week, or a hobby you’re passionate about, use it as a bridge. Then listen—really listen.

Let the Conversation Be What It Is

Sometimes a chat will fizzle. That’s cool. Sometimes it will spark something powerful. That’s gold.

What matters is that you showed up. You started the exchange.

And if you keep showing up, just like going to the gym or learning a new skill, your comfort grows. Your confidence compounds.

Real Relationships Start with Reps

You want to build real relationships? Then do the reps. Go where people are. Compliment someone. Ask a question. Let it be messy. And then keep going.

Eventually, you'll find the ones you vibe with. Those shared hobbies. That mutual energy. People who want to build too.

Whether it's a gym buddy, a new business friend, or someone who just sees the world like you do—you won't find them unless you're willing to take the first step.

So take the step. Make yourself a priority. And watch what happens when you lead with connection.